The perfect wife

I'm taking a break from dating for awhile. I'm just too busy doing stuff I enjoy. And since it's so unusual for me to be satisfied single, I might as well make the most of it while I can! (Plus, I was upsetting too many women with my lack of communication. The guilt. The guilt.)

Someone suggested to me that I nail down what it is I'm "looking for." I resisted it a little because I have been taking the approach that I am willing to go out with anyone, at least once or twice, in order to not "screen" people unnecessarily. Maybe I will discover something. I was trying to be open to life "outside the box."

However, she had a point. Because if I don't know what's important to me I may end up "sticking" to someone for all kinds of weird reasons, ignoring the fact that they are missing very important qualities. I get in that trouble a lot, because I am a flexible, adaptable person, and it doesn't take much spark to get a "connection" going. Inevitably, though, the other deficits show up and I'm wanting out.

So I guess I am endeavoring to prevent "love blindness" by being explicit ahead of time what the things are that are important to me, so I won't forget them when I'm caught up in the rush of a new relationship.

If you will permit me, I would like to use this forum to flesh some of it out. The title of this piece is kind of a joke. I don't believe there is a perfect wife. But the following would be attributes that would help her be a good fit for me. For those of you who know me, please post comments whether you agree or not, or whether I have overlooked something. This is a group test, lol.

Critical

• Strong spirituality. A deep connection with God born out of trial and rigorous self-honesty. This would be the God described in the Old and New Testament of the Bible, including the coming of this God to earth in the form of Jesus. It is not "the universe" or "karma" or "higher self" or whatever. Since this is the central focus of my life it is critical that we share this, and spur each other on in the faith.
• Mature. Self-confident, independent, good self-esteem, good relationships.
• Fruit of the Spirit. Not perfection, but a consistent and growing evidence of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, self-control.
• Committed to personal and relational growth.

Very Important

• Loves music. Music is such a strong passion of mine it would be hard to imagine living the rest of my life with someone who didn't share that.
• Doesn't want any more children. Been there. Done that.
• Quick mind, quick wit, appreciative of my attempts at humor.
• Comfortable with little physical intimacy prior to marriage and lots after.
• Affectionate.
• Nice teeth. (I know. I'm not buying a horse.)
• Aesthetically pleasing to me. How do I describe that? That's hard. I appreciate many types of beauty in women. I know I am much more interested in natural beauty than in what she looks like all made-up. I think it is important that I have a natural, unforced, positive reaction whenever I see her, so that it will be easy for me to naturally tell her "You're so _____." I'd like to be able to do that for her.
• Petite. I've always found short, small women attractive and interesting.

Important

• Intraverted. This does not mean shy or timid or a loner. It means that she is very comfortable being alone and being quiet.
• Appreciates beauty. All the arts, anything aesthetic.
• An established vocation. Has a sense of her gifts and calling and is pursuing that.
• Strong and supportive family of origin.
• Good verbal skills. Ability to express herself well in speaking and writing.
• Ethnic. I suppose my attraction has usually been to european looks such as italian, hispanic, scandanavian, eastern european. Exotic. Distinctive. Unusual. And having experience living in another culture is positive to me.
• Artistic. Draw, paint, sketch, create. Particularly colors!

Nice to have

• Foreign language. The ability to speak another language besides English.
• Good housekeeper. Likes to cook, clean, make a comfortable living environment.
• Musical. Likes to play instruments or sing. Passionate and skilled.

Ok, so set me up... Who do you know that's in the ballpark? I might just be willing to come out of retirement! lol